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Husband First Children Second

Husband First Children Second

This may not resonate at first glance, but keep reading... Bringing a child into this world is arguably one of the most memorable experiences for a woman, even I will attest to this. Becoming a wife, to some, is also high on the list. Now while I am not of extreme religious character, there are some basic principles that I recognize and practice from the bible. Some of those things include the Ten Commandments, honoring thy father and mother, submitting to my husband, and accepting that my husband comes before my children. husband I have to admit that I have seen quite a bit of conflicting comments related to this on social media, in overheard conversation, etc. I have also noticed in most cases however, that the children in these circumstances are often not the husband's. This is such an important detail, and I believe that it affects a woman's readiness to adopt this principle. If the children are not your husband's, it may prove to be more difficult to believe how any woman can put another man before her own seed(s). Although I know that this does not matter according to the bible (mostly because your children should unequivocally be your husband's as well), I can sympathize with this argument in today's society. Ladies, please remember however, that when you are saying 'yes' to your husband, you are equally saying 'yes' to your faith in his ability to lead your household, union, AND children. Putting your husband and his needs first is so crucial. Not only does it demonstrate and reiterate submission in your matrimony, I have found it to be one of the fundamental keys to a healthy marriage. I also strongly believe that it creates a strong practice for your children to abide by, so that they too can thrive in wedlock. ewg Ultimately as parents, more often than most you want to see your children have healthy relationships, get married, and have children someday. Providing them with the tools to do this effectively is no different than planning for their education or any other future goal you have in mind for them. Today, I challenge women to be selective. To consider what they are saying 'yes' to, and to put their husbands FIRST. When you sincerely love AND respect your husband, the return is immeasurable. And guess what, your children reap the benefits of that as well.

More to Marriage Than the Wedding

More to Marriage Than the Wedding

Weddings are incredibly beautiful. Romantic. Ceremonial. Memorable. These days however, it seems as though marriage has become more about the wedding and rings than the union itself. What happens once the cake is cut is an unknown to many of us. The expectations, disappointments, and bickering often comes before the bliss, understanding and sincere acceptance of another – if you stick it out to get there of course.
    There is more to marriage than the wedding and beautiful centerpieces.   What I've learned so far:
  • Get married, have weddings, plan them well. I only equally challenge and encourage you to seek counseling, discuss marital expectations.
  • Do whatever it takes to find resolve in disagreements and under unpleasant circumstances.
  • I’ve personally found that the most effective way to accomplish these things is with God. His wisdom, His word, His invisible yet so ever-present PUSH to get over the humps.
  • The first few years are said to be the roughest. This doesn't suggest that the rest is a cakewalk, this just shows you how important the beginning foundation is in your marital journey.
  • Marriages can, and do, succeed and last. Contrary to popular belief. All it takes is two ready and willing hearts and ONE reckoning force.
Here's to happy marriages. May we be blessed with them, may we find strength in them, and may we encourage each other to fight for them. What's your best marriage tip for marriages that last? Please leave a comment that might encourage and empower another woman today. 
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