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Woman Is The N$%&*r of the World -John Lennon

Woman Is The N$%&*r of the World -John Lennon

This past rainy weekend I was thumbing through Netflix and stumbled across Being Mary Jane, a show I hadn't watched since the first season. Intrigued to see how the second season panned out, I began to watch and came across an episode entitled - Woman Is The Nigger of the World. Totally dumbfounded by such an egregious statement, I was equally intrigued to delve further when I saw where the quote stemmed from - John Lennon. The controversial song was written in 1972 by John Lennon, but coined by Yoko Ono in a 1969 interview with UK magazine Nova.

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Still so admittedly hurt by the statement, I began to read the lyrics of the record. I couldn't believe the truth that I was seeing, and the correlation of the plights that both women and people of color face day to day. As a woman first and of color second however, it was so unfortunate to hear it branded on wax the way women were treated many years ago, and are still treated now. While my personal belief is that there is no comparison between how women are treated in this world versus how people of color are treated, the profound truth in Lennon's lyrics cut like a knife:


 

Woman is the nigger of the world Yes she is...think about it Woman is the nigger of the world Think about it...do something about it

We make her paint her face and dance If she won't be a slave, we say that she don't love us If she's real, we say she's trying to be a man While putting her down we pretend that she is above us Woman is the nigger of the world...yes she is If you don't believe me take a look to the one you're with Woman is the slaves of the slaves Ah yeah...better scream about it We make her bear and raise our children And then we leave her flat for being a fat old mother hen We tell her home is the only place she would be Then we complain that she's too unworldly to be our friend Woman is the nigger of the world...yes she is If you don't believe me take a look to the one you're with Woman is the slaves of the slaves Yeah (think about it)

We insult her everyday on TV And wonder why she has no guts or confidence When she's young we kill her will to be free While telling her not to be so smart we put her down for being so dumb Woman is the nigger of the world...yes she is If you don't believe me take a look to the one you're with Woman is the slaves of the slaves Yes she is...if you believe me, you better scream about it.

[Repeat:] We make her paint her face and dance We make her paint her face and dance We make her paint her face and dance


ewg Many would argue that they are unsure which is "worse" in today's society - being a woman or being a person of color - but as a woman who is both, I can tell you that the battle is arduous to say the least. As a woman of color, I am constantly going a step further to prove myself and be accepted. Constantly wondering whether I'm 'good enough' as I am. Woman enough to admit these insecurities and feelings, I was empowered to do better. Hearing this song and reading these lyrics changed my mindset, in one listen. To deviate from my disappointment and sadness. To further realize my self worth. To be a better WOMAN. Today, I want to encourage women to raise young men who value women. Young men who see a woman's worth and beauty in so much more than what meets the eye. I want to encourage husbands to remain loyal, faithful, and appreciative of their blessing in finding a good wife.
Lastly, I want to also tell women that you are perfect just the way you are. Made up or just waking up, you are perfect.

More to Marriage Than the Wedding

More to Marriage Than the Wedding

Weddings are incredibly beautiful. Romantic. Ceremonial. Memorable. These days however, it seems as though marriage has become more about the wedding and rings than the union itself. What happens once the cake is cut is an unknown to many of us. The expectations, disappointments, and bickering often comes before the bliss, understanding and sincere acceptance of another – if you stick it out to get there of course.
    There is more to marriage than the wedding and beautiful centerpieces.   What I've learned so far:
  • Get married, have weddings, plan them well. I only equally challenge and encourage you to seek counseling, discuss marital expectations.
  • Do whatever it takes to find resolve in disagreements and under unpleasant circumstances.
  • I’ve personally found that the most effective way to accomplish these things is with God. His wisdom, His word, His invisible yet so ever-present PUSH to get over the humps.
  • The first few years are said to be the roughest. This doesn't suggest that the rest is a cakewalk, this just shows you how important the beginning foundation is in your marital journey.
  • Marriages can, and do, succeed and last. Contrary to popular belief. All it takes is two ready and willing hearts and ONE reckoning force.
Here's to happy marriages. May we be blessed with them, may we find strength in them, and may we encourage each other to fight for them. What's your best marriage tip for marriages that last? Please leave a comment that might encourage and empower another woman today. 
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