Safe Sex

Safe Sex

Yes, I said it, Safe Sex! Don’t be scared to talk about it. It is very important in this day and age. And ladies and gentlemen, if your partner has a problem with discussing safe sex practices, you may want to take a step back.

After a recent episode of the infamous “Love and Hip Hop: Ney York” and an interview of “Peter Gunz” on the Breakfast Club, I found it necessary to write this post. I get it, we all like sex. Some of us love it, but definitely not enough to put our lives on the line. This man willingly admitted to not using condoms with either of the mothers of his children. And why should you trust a man that clearly has cheated on both women?! So it’s obvious to question whether he’s even sleeping with even more women than the two. Let’s be real, it doesn’t matter if that’s the father of your child or mother of your child, you should always use the appropriate protection. Unless you’re married or it’s been proven in writing that you are both “clean” AKA-disease free, then you should choose to wrap it up. Not only that who wants to be a single parent? It’s extremely rough out here with a two parent household, so I wouldn’t be able to imagine doing a 1 parent household.

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Now don’t ya’ll go holding that against me! I am entitled to my own opinions, as are you. But if you are educated than you know that condoms are 99.9% effective when used appropriately against STD’s including the killer - HIV/AIDS! They are also 99.9% effective when used appropriately against getting impregnated as well. But birth control and condoms together are best from preventing pregnancy. In fact, so is abstinence – but that’s a whole separate topic.

Now, just because a woman is on birth control, that does not warrant unprotected sex, because guess what, ladies and gentlemen…You can still get an STD, trust me. If a man/woman has not shown you that they can be monogamous, why would you even have unprotected sex with them?

Let's Talk About It,

Ms. Nish

Little Ones And The Dentist

Little Ones And The Dentist

Yesterday I made my 2nd trip to the dentist with my 3 year old Cade, and my first trip for my 15 month old Beckham. The oldest, Cade, has always been my big, independent, responsible child, and I never have issues with him settling and cooperating. The youngest however - we're working on things LOL

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After a little bit of research, I concluded early on that it is extremely important to begin good habit oral care as early as the first tooth. While you may not schedule a pediatric dental appointment, it is a great idea to use a scrubbing tool or soft baby toothbrush to gently clean the gums and teeth. There are also teeth cleansing baby products that are fine to be swallowed. Besides keeping the teeth and mouth clean, it establishes the following for your little one:

  1. Pattern
  2. Familiarity
  3. Good Hygiene

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My experience at the beginning of the tooth-brushing stage has always been rough - getting them to let you inside their mouth, and when they finally do for a very short period of time - but once our first visit to the dentist comes around, you'll realize that your persistence has paid off. For the most part, they know what's going on and allow the Dentist to do their job. These days, it certainly helps that they give them cool sunglasses to block the bright light, and headphones with an animated movie to focus on.

Lack of oral care is one of the leading and most underrated health issues in our African American community youth, but it truly doesn't have to be. Your children are eligible for free dental cleanings twice a year just like you if you have health insurance. Even if you do not, look into free health programs that are oftentimes available for our youth. 

It's up to us as moms to make sure that we teach our children young the importance of healthy teeth and hygiene. Don't be afraid, start at home and schedule an appointment!

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Chances

Chances

As I sit back and look at the city beneath me, I wonder daily how I ended up here. It started off as a journey and a possibility. Never thought I’d ever leave Chicago, my family, the people I loved the most to move thousands of miles away. Sometimes, I wonder if I made the right decisions in life, then I think about all that I’ve been thru and where I am today and I’m thankful for life, the experiences, and where I am today in life.

Overall, it has been a very interesting journey to say the least. I left Chicago on a whim with a dream to do travel nursing and possibly go back at some point. Here I am over 5 years later and Chicago is just a place of the past. It’ll always be near and dear to me, but I can’t say it’ll ever be my permanent home again. Who knows, if Houston will even be my permanent home. As of right now, it is very permanent however. I’ve made some major moves down here in Houston even with major setbacks. The first year I was here, I was miserable, I hated my job, I missed my family, and I was bored. I was determined to make it work. I changed jobs, started meeting more people, and started to travel. In June of 2012, I decided to look into buying a home because I was tired of paying someone else’s mortgage and living by their rules. Flash forward, August 2012, I had just transferred within my company and a few weeks later found out my grandmother was extremely sick, so I flew back to Chicago wondering if I was making the right decision by staying in Houston – yet again.

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On October 1, 2012, my grandmother passed away. Out of all the death I had experienced up until that point, it was and still is the hardest to think about. December 6, 2012 (my grandmother’s birthday by the way) I closed on my first home and I couldn’t have been prouder of myself. January 10, 2013, I was let go from my job. I was devastated and hurt and my only question to God was, “I know you didn’t bring me this far to let me lose it all?” I was back wondering if I shouldn’t have purchased the home and if I should go back to Chicago.

Fast forward to February 14th, 2013, I was blessed with an even greater job and I learned a valuable lesson…HUMBLE YOURSELF. So I am grateful and will never take anything for granted. Today, I have an amazing career, a beautiful home, and great health. I thank God for bringing me to this place. If I wouldn’t have jumped out on a leap of faith and moved away from Chicago, I wouldn’t be where I am today. I probably wouldn’t own a home or even have such a great career.

 

Sometimes you have to leave what you know instead of being scared or closed-minded to explore this wonderful world.

Loving Life,

Ms. Nish

Family Pics, Who Needs ‘Em

Family Pics, Who Needs 'Em

Move over Cade, there's a new Big Brother in town!

Yes, I am expecting Baby #3 in late August, and my husband and I couldn't be more excited. Here are some photos from arguably our first official family photo shoot with the beautiful and talented Anedny Laubscher:

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I must admit that I felt a lot of pressure to take a family photo finally, but seeing the result truly took my breath away. To see your family in one setting, smiling, laughing, and captured for keepsake is very special. I wasn't prepared for the joy that I'm feeling.

Congrats to all of the other expectant moms out there! I have secretly been praying with all of you and wishing you well 🙂

January Boxycharm: What’s Inside

January 2016 Boxycharm Reveal

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What's Inside:

Coastal Scents Revealed Palette in "Smoky" - This is now my 2nd Revealed Palette in a Boxycharm subscription, and I must say that the eyeshadow palette steal is always a winner! With so much color range that has great pigmentation, I could literally live off of both palettes only (If I had to lol) While I would never pay the retail price for this palette ($39.95), it was certainly worth it in my Boxycharm, and I use it multiple times a week easily. 

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**Above look achieved with Coastal Scents Revealed Smoky Palette & Star Looks Lux Longwear Eyeliner**

Star Looks Luxe Longwear Eyeliner in "Black" - While my favorite eyeliner will forever be the Kat Von D Tattoo Eyeliner in Black, I will certainly use this eyeliner as a backup. Glides on well, and easy to use (if you've already become accustomed to liquid liners)

BLINC Mascara Amplified - If you already have full lashes and don't want the clump or extra product residue, this is for you! I prefer to use this product as a 2nd coat once I've applied a mascara that gives me more volume. This BLINC mascara works well to separate lashes while still elongating them.

Royal and Langnickel Brush Set (Detail/Crease/Smudge Brushes) - If you wear make-up, you know how much good brushes that actually get e job done can cost. Much like the eyeshadow palette, this set was a mega steal! The brushes apply product well and have great density.    

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As always, my Boxycharm subscription was a hit this month! It's so exciting to reveal each month's Boxycharm goodies with you all! 6 full size products retailing well over $100 for just $21/month. What beauty subscriptions do you all have and love?