No Settle Zone

About Ms. Nish

This blog is for the average woman. The everyday woman. The budget friendly woman. The woman who can only spare 40 minutes to get herself ready in the morning. The working woman. The vivacious woman. The woman who wants to be healthy, confident, and beautiful. 

Being young, single, successful, and a black female is hard honey! I never thought it would come to this. I want to share my experiences with you all and get feedback from both men and women.

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No Settle Zone

First off, let me start off by saying ladies and gentlemen - please DO NOT settle. Consider the first questionable sign as a sign that it may not be meant to be with that particular person.

Two years ago, I found myself settling with a man that I knew from the beginning I did not want to be with. I should have known better at that age, but I was thinking that I wanted to be like everyone else around me. Most of my friends were in serious relationships or married. I was just trying to be in our “in crowd”. There were obvious SIGNS for me, and I should have listened to them. Before I knew it this man had wiggled his way into my life and my space.

All of my friends would say, "He’s so nice and sweet, I’m so happy for you!" While in my mind I was thinking, “You guys must see something that I don’t.” Not even a few months later, I found myself in a situation that no woman should ever be in. This man attempted to physically harm me. Any person that would knowingly - man or woman - attempt to physically harm you, cannot be good for you. Ofcourse this is just my personal opinion, but I’ll never stick around to find out otherwise.

The experience was traumatizing for me. I was both scared and embarrassed to tell anyone until after the situation was over, and it still embarrasses me til this day. From the moment he left my life, I decided that I wanted better and deserved better. I vowed not to settle again. If you legitimately know what you want in a mate, then stand firm on it and do not settle. We all can fall victim to wanting something just because we think it looks “good” on the outside, but it’s more than that. Get to know a person and the type of person that they are before making a final choice like exclusivity or marriage.

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I’ve also learned that it’s super helpful to write down a list of things that you want in a mate, the things that you know you absolutely cannot tolerate, and then identify things that you can compromise on. Sometimes you have to let go of menial things as well. Has anyone else got their list drawn up? I’ve got mine and it’s pretty solid. I won’t be settling again either...

XOXO,

Ms. Nish

Comments

  1. T
    T
    03 February 16, 3:13pm

    Love this!

  2. GNS
    05 February 16, 3:05pm

    Powerful

  3. Mrs. O.
    05 February 16, 9:19pm

    Thank you…Stay tuned for more to come in the future!

    -Ms. Nish

  4. Mrs. O.
    05 February 16, 9:21pm

    Thank you…Let me know if you have any topics you’d like me to post about!

    -Ms. Nish

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